“If they miss you, they’ll call. If they want you, they’ll say it. If they care they’ll show it. And if not, they aren’t worth your time”
I find this hard. This topic. Feeling as though, if you weren’t there that person’s life wouldn’t change. That they wouldn’t be saying, “I wish so and so was here” “where is she?” or he. It is hard to work out who really cares and who just pretends to. I used to dwell over this a lot, but I have discovered it was really just a waste of time.
Think about it.
Who has always remembered your birthday? Who has texted you to see where you were? Who has always checked up on you? Those are the ones who I think really care, who actually think about you and appreciate you. The friends that would drive for an hour at 11.00 at night to help you if you were in trouble. The ones you know you can count on for anything. The ones who would never go behind your back. The ones who would stand up for you if you’re being talked about and they didn’t think it was right.
Try something. Ignore them ever so slightly, see what they do, see how it affects them, do they question you? Do they ask you to talk to them? Do they try to get your attention? Or do they just carry on with their lives and not really care. Those people, the ones who don’t care, aren’t worth it. Don’t ponder over them or think about them all the time. Don’t go above and beyond to help them because they don’t deserve it.
Those people feel as though they can treat you like that because they know you’ll always be there, that you’ll always come back to them. Don’t. Don’t give them that satisfaction, you deserve better than that! Focus on the people that really care about you.
“If you find someone who makes you smile, who checks up on you often to see if you’re ok. Who watches out for you and wants the best for you. Who loves and respects you. Don’t let them go. People like that are hard to find”